What to Put in Your Sex Toy Starter Kit
Afraid to venture into toyland? Go from shy gal to sex kitten with these nonthreatening, must-have picks and perk up your “play” time(13 Photos)
“Simply put, bedroom accessories get you ready for a little frisky business,” says Dana B. Myers, Sexy Lifestyle Expert and Founder of Booty Parlor. “They enhance your bedroom play and they are the props and tools you need to create a more exciting, creative sexy experience; however, there are some pretty crazy/scary/intimidating accessories out there, and [that] isn’t the way most of us want our sex lives described!” Play it safe with our choice of slightly naughty, but still very nice, toys.
Good Girl/Bad Girl Feather Whipper
Step your way into bed play with this multi-functional whip. It has a sensual marabou pouf on one side to tickle and caress, and a seductive rubber-strands whipper on the other to deliver a friskier sensation. “Sometimes you’re naughty, and sometimes you’re nice,” says Myers. “This one product lets you safely and comfortably explore both sides to your sexy personality.”
Available at Booty Parlor for $24.BOOTYPARLOR.COM
“Use it with a boy. Use it with a toy. Use it with your favorite boy-toy!” says Myers. “Anyway you use it, lubricant helps make the most of your sexiest moments.” If you never thought of lube as a “toy” (but rather something for people in a “dry” spell) think again. “Slippery sex is good sex,” says Claire Cavanah, co-founder of Babeland and co-author of Sex Toys 101. The wetter, the better.
But don’t just pick out any ole’ slippery solution. To begin with, you want to make sure you have a water-based product (lest you want to risk tears in any latex products you might be using). Then look for other benefits like “non-irritating” and “unscented.” Good ones to try:
Add Magic lube is odorless, flavorless and irritant-free…and comes in a bottle so pretty you’ll never have to hide it. Avaialble at Booty Parlor for $10.
BabeLube Natural is all-natural, vegan, cruelty-free, paraben-free, glycerin-free, and contains no added or artificial scent, sugar, or artificial sweeteners. Available at Babeland for $12.BOOTYPARLOR.COM
Bite the Bullet
This is truly a classic. Every good sex toy box should include a silver bullet. It’s the go-to get-off toy for neophytes and nymphos alike. Completely nondescript, this little vibrating bullet has a power changing slide button (the better to control your pleasure, my dear) and it provides a surprisingly strong buzz for its size. It’s effective while being completely affordable (only $15!). First timers have reported that this toy helped them bridge the gap from too-shy gal to sex-toy curious.
Available at Babeland for $15.BABELAND.COM
A little sensory deprivation can go a long way towards sensual delight and tantalizing sexual encounters. A sweet and saucy way to introduce this into your repertoire is this silk blindfold. With “Good Girl” on one side and “Bad Girl” on the other, you can choose which direction you’d like your role play to go without saying a word. And while blindfolded, your partner can decide what other “toys” to try on you, or just delight you with the thrill of his touch and your inability to see what’s coming next. Close your eyes and enjoy!
Available at Booty Parlor for $26.BOOTYPARLOR.COM
Embrace the Kiss
Every good toy box should have at least one “internally used” goodie. Enter the totally harmless sounding and delightfully colorful “Butterfly Kiss” (designed not to tickle your face but rather to tickle something um…deeper inside). An extremely affordable version of a “dual action vibe” (meaning the internal part offers G-spot stimulation, while the “butterfly wings” vibrate powerfully against your clitoris), this double whammy is great for beginners who are a little nervous about inserting something serious (it’s only 3.5 inches), but curious enough to want to explore G spots unknown.
Available at Babeland for $17.BABELAND.COM
Form a Bond
Does bondage scare the pants off you? Try “bonding” instead. Perfect for a sex toy newbie, this playful tape is meant for restraint but it won’t actually stick to you -- it only adheres to itself – making it way less intimidating. “Bind wrists together or wrap one end around a bedpost and another to a wrist or ankle,” suggest Myers. “When you’re ready for release, simply unwind…it unwraps easily and doesn’t stick to skin or hair, making it far more friendly than a pair of lock-and-key handcuffs.” Myers suggests you can also wrap it around your bod like a sassy plastic bandeau top or wind it up your legs to look like fierce thigh-high boots. Wherever you choose to “stick” it, this tape is known to bind couples together.
Available at Booty Parlor for $20.BOOTYPARLOR.COM
Let Out a Peep
Sometimes instead of taking it all off, it’s brutally sexy to leave a little something on. Especially if that something has no crotch. The Peepshow Princess Panty is “a supple and soft black lace panty with a cheeky cut that makes your bum looks fantastically perky,” says Myers. “The flirty pink bow says, ‘Here’s your present’ while the discreet peek-a-boo cutout makes this the gift that keeps on giving.” Wear them at home, or wear them out and alert your partner to your flirty little secret…his eyes will probably bug out when he sees the peepshow.
Available at Booty Parlor or Babeland for $26.BOOTYPARLOR.COM
Put On a Lip
Staying over at his place but nervous to carry your toys with you (and worried about looking presumptuous)? Or maybe you’re headed on vacation but afraid of airport security. “There's no need to hide this pretty prop, as it blends seamlessly into your makeup bag,” says Myers. “It's just right for the woman who doesn't want anything remotely phallic for her first toy.” To the unknowing eye, it looks just like another shade of pucker power in your purse, but one little twist and you can be on your way to tantalizing a different set of lips. Surprisingly powerful, this discrete little vibrator is much more than a novelty toy; newer versions even sport a multispeed dial. Got toys, will travel!
Available at Booty Parlor or Babeland for $28.BOOTYPARLOR.COM
Play with Wax
You know that candles set the scene, but what about a little wax play? Because nothing says buzz-kill like a hot wax fantasy gone wrong, you may wish to start off with a candle that actually turns into a massage oil. This emollient massage candle (available in sensual Spicy Chocolate Cinnamon or Exotic Sandalwood Vanilla scents) is made of a rich blend of shea butter, vitamins A & E, jojoba, olive and coconut oils and clean-burning natural soy wax. Because of its unique formulation, however, the candle melts at just over body temperature, which makes it comfortably warm on the skin. And the resulting oils rub in to leave skin soft and supple. Light the candle, blow out the flame, drizzle on your lover’s body and see what else heats up.
Available at Booty Parlor for $36.BOOTYPARLOR.COM
Egg Him On
When you’re a little too tired to go south and you’re pretty sure your dude is better with his hands than you are, it’s time to grab a Tenga Egg. These slightly larger than Cadbury looking eggs are actually a coy sleeve for the little dude. Just place a pinch of lube in the egg, slide it over his member and let any of the six texture styles -- Silky, Stepper, Twister, Spider, Clicker, and Wavy -- help put him over the edge with the help of your wrist action. He’ll love the sensations.
Available at Babeland -- $8.50 for one/$43 for a half dozen.TENGA-EURPOE.COM
Put a Ring On It
Everything is better when shared right? Yup…that includes orgasms. Want to take a stab at reaching that holy grail of the shared Big O? Well, a couple’s vibrator is a good way to help sweep you both away! “Added buzz where you want it during intercourse keeps things hot and heavy,” says Cavanah. Trying a cock ring is an economical choice for a sex toy newbie. But it can be a little daunting to slip that rubber ring around him. He might also need a little convincing on letting anything that restrictive-looking anywhere near him. If you are ready to experiment though, the sonic ring kit is a great place to start.
Feeling daring? You might wish to try the latest and greatest couple’s vibe out there, the Tiani by Lelo. “The new Tiani is remote-controlled, feels amazing, and is the perfect size and shape to deliver simultaneous orgasms,” says Cavanah. This smooth u-shaped dual-action vibe will slip into your bod and stay there…even when he slips into you as well. There is also a remote control so you can either give him the reins, or you can take matters into your own hands (i.e. as he’s getting close to the edge of exploding, you can flip up the intensity for your end of the vibe in an attempt to time sync your orgasms). Genius!
Sonic Ring Kit, available at Babeland for $20.
Tiani, available at Babeland for $159.BABELAND.COM
Every good girl (or surprisingly naughty girl) should clean up her toys. Even better than washing them (which risk shorting out batteries), is spraying your toys post-use or pre-romp toys with a special toy cleaner.
Available at Booty Parlor for $8.BOOTYPARLOR.COM
Keep it Tidy
Of course, now you need a box to hold all your goodies. The Devine Toy Box is satin-lined, lockable and comes with a matching Condom Cube -- because any woman in charge of her sexuality should have a few “love gloves” bedside. And to the unknowing eye, either one just looks like a CD case or a box for office supplies…meaning your secret is safe, until you want it to be unleashed.
Devine Toy Box goes for $48 and Condom Cube goes for $23, both available at Devine Toys.
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