New Year Resolutions for the Single Girl
Where do you want to be this time next year and how will you get there?
By JACQUELINE PARKER
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New Year’s Resolutions
As the holidays approach, it’s time to start looking towards the year ahead. What better way to start off the year than with some simple, yet effective changes? Begin your New Year’s resolution strategy by reflecting on the year behind you: what would you like to change, where do you want to be and what you would do differently? New Year’s resolutions are a great way to wipe the slate clean and start fresh – especially when it comes to love.
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Cleaning out your emotional closet
Look at your relationships and figure out what’s weighing you down. It’s time to set boundaries and create more time for the people who provide a positive influence and reduce or remove the time you spend with people who don’t support you and tend to bring you down. Toxic friends and family can drain your energy and your time. Surround yourself with people who understand the give and take of relationships.
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Lack of inventory or insight?
Have a look at your past relationships. You are the common denominator. Instead of complaining that all the good ones are taken, take a deep look and see if you might be able to improve anything personally to increase your odds. What are the mistakes you might be making in relationships? No one’s perfect and neither are you. There’s nothing wrong with that, it just means there’s opportunity to create positive change for positive results.
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Everyone deserves a second chance
It’s amazing what nerves can do to a person. First date jitters can make someone babble, not talk at all, or say very stupid things. Consider it a compliment and consider a second date. You’ll get a better chance to see what he’s really about and you just may find a hidden gem.
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Don’t get lost. Use a map.
This year, think about where you want to be and develop a plan to get there. Don’t just wait for life to throw you a bone. Make things happen for yourself. If it’s a relationship you’re looking for, start by writing a list of the qualities that are important to you and the ‘must have’ items. Focus on your goal and don’t settle for someone who’s got a check mark for ‘attractive’ but is completely self-absorbed. You’ll meet the man of your dreams quicker by sticking to your guns.
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Shake it up
Change your routine to meet new people. Try a new Starbucks location on your morning commute or take a different route to work all together. Making changes means you’ll be exposed to different people and different situations. You just never know who you’ll meet.
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Be cool but don’t be cold
It’s great to protect yourself and stand up for your rights but too many of us go over-board and have a hard-core attitude about what we will and will not do for a man. Relationships are about give and take so if you think you won’t be taking ‘any crap’ from a man, think again. You have to expect that everyone will screw up and forgiveness is part life. So be careful about talking a tough game. You’re likely scaring away potential partners who feel they can’t live up to your expectation of perfection.
Jacqueline is the publisher of Drinks At Six, an online lifestyle magazine for single and independent women.
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