Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin Splitting Up Doesn't Mean We Can Have A Snark Fest
So, Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin announced that they are separating today (on GOOP, no less). And before we squeal out an "I knew it" or a "There goes the neighbou-goop" (which admittedly was my first instinct, too) I think we all need to take a collective deep breath instead of insantly leaping headfirst into Schadenfruede, snark and judgement.
This is not about us, after all. It's not about how big of a Coldplay fan we are. It's not about which side of the Gwyneth Paltrow fence we all sit on. It's not even about whether or not we saw it coming, or knew it was inevitable, or took stock in all the tabloid rumours blustering through the internet on any given day.
It's about them.
Let's get this straight right off the bat: this is sad news. Really sad news. Because, love 'em or hate 'em, Paltrow and Martin were one of the few celebrity couples that made us believe that celebrity couples could last. That among the churning, revolving doors of love affairs that so many celebs go through, there were some, normal (ish) married folks who were just happy being in love and raising their kids -- even if they did it drinking chlorophyll smoothies and carrying $10,000 purses.
And maybe that's the saddest thing: there are kids involved. Separation is difficult enough for adults, but it's almost certainly confusing, scary and gut-wrenching for young kids. Keep in mind that Apple is only nine, and Moses is just seven years old. Trying to parse your parents' split when you haven't even hit junior high is tough; doing it in the public eye is going to be tougher.
The silver lining is that Gwynnie seems to have a pretty mature take on the break-up. She writes:
"We are, however, and always will be a family, and in many ways we are closer than we have ever been. We are parents first and foremost, to two incredibly wonderful children and we ask for their and our space and privacy to be respected at this difficult time. We have always conducted our relationship privately, and we hope that as we consciously uncouple and coparent, we will be able to continue in the same manner."
So before we all resort to the rubbernecking that will no doubt ensue, let's try and remember that stars may not be just like us, but they are people, too. And they deserve to be treated that way. (Even if you take personal offense to the term "conscious uncoupling.")