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11 Anal Sex Tips You Need to Know

Apr 6, 2013 at 11:10 PM Chime in now

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Anal sex is the new black! Perhaps that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but there is no denying that it is a hot topic for both men and women. Recent research  indicates that anal sex is on the rise with up to 46 percent of women reporting that they’ve indulged in some sizzling back-door play. Whether you’re feeling a bit hesitant or excited to dive right in, be sure to read through this list of tips in its entirety before experimenting with each strategy, as each one builds upon the former.
 
1. Get to know your bum
 
Your anus is a thing of wonder! Really!
 
With two sphincter muscles (ring-like structures), rich nerve endings and a highly responsive pucker (AKA bum hole), your butt is worth becoming acquainted with -- especially if you’re going to let a partner in on the action.
 
While masturbating or showering, try sliding a lubed up pinky finger inside and allowing your sphincter muscles to contract and relax as you breathe deeply.
 
2. Do it yourself first
 
When it comes to sex, there is considerable value in trying new things on your own before introducing them to partnered play, as we often allow our body’s natural responses to flow more freely and experience less pressure in the absence of a lover.
 
If you want to experiment with anal play, try playing with your own body first before bringing your partner into the equation. Begin with external stimulation and use silicone lube to gradually practice insertion beginning with the tip of your pinky. You should be able to feel your muscles contract and relax as you become more comfortable with this taboo region of your body.
 
Though not all anal play involves penetration, if you plan on inserting objects into your partner’s butt, it might be a good idea to try it on yourself first so you have a sense of how it feels.
 
3. Practice breathing
 
Your breathing patterns are essential to enjoying anal sex and ensuring that it is pleasurable and entirely pain-free. Though you can easily control your outer sphincter muscle with your central nervous system (the same system that allows you to contract and the other muscles in your body at will), your breath can help you to relax your inner sphincter muscle which is controlled by the autonomic nervous system. Just as deep breathing and other relaxation techniques can help to slow your heart rate, so too can they help you to relax the inner sphincter ring to make anal play more enjoyable.

While in the shower, practice slow and rhythmic breathing while relaxing and contracting your sphincter muscles. When you’re ready, you can slide a lubed-up finger inside to experiment with the changes in muscle tension related to your breath patterns.
 
 
4. Use Lube!
 
Unlike other bodily orifices, the anus does not self-lubricate, so lube is essential to anal play. Some people prefer silicone-based lubes for anal play, as they last longer and don’t wash away in the shower. Check out Uberlube and Pink Silicone  or Blossom Organics  if you prefer a water-based lubricant.  

5. Be open to orgasms
 
Anal sex should be pleasurable for both partners and though not all sexual pleasure leads to orgasm, you can climax during anal sex. The male prostate can be stimulated through the bum as can the female cul-de-sac (the sensitive area on the lower wall of the vagina).
 
Interestingly, research indicates that rates of orgasm for women are actually higher among those who report engaging in anal play as part of their sexual routine. Researchers connect these findings with the related report that engaging in a wider variety of activities during sex is positively correlated with orgasm.
 
6. Double the Pleasure
 
There is nothing in the rule book that says you can’t stimulate other hot spots during anal sex, so reach down with your hand and rub your clitoris, finger your G-Spot or play with whatever hot spot puts you over the edge.  

7. Start with external stimulation
 
Anal sex does not have to include penetration. In fact, most anal sex play involves a bit of finger play on the outside around the bum hole. Try drawing slow circles around the pucker with a lubed finger or gently pressing against it with the flat pad of your thumb.
 
A good exercise for newbies is to enjoy anal play (licking, sucking, massaging, kissing, etc.) with the promise of no penetration to build trust and become familiar with new sensations.
 
8. Proceed gradually
 
Many people encounter negative experiences with anal sex (and particularly penetration), as they move too quickly and attempt insertion before they’re relaxed and ready. Take time to deepen your breathing and begin with a very small object like your pinky finger before increasing the size gradually. Sex is not a race and incremental experimentation can lead to passionate connections, heightened intimacy and mind-blowing orgasms. 
 
9. Wait until you’re highly aroused
 
Surprise! A finger in the bum doesn’t qualify as passable foreplay for the vast majority of lovers. In fact, it is often a good idea to hold off on penetration until you’re highly excited, as arousal can help you to relax and have a palliative effect on your body. Begin with the sexual activities you normally enjoy before introducing something new.
 
10.  Take control
 
If you’re an anal sex newbie who decides to have anal intercourse and you’re the receptive partner (AKA the one with an object up your butt), being in control is of paramount importance. Choose positions that allow you to control the depth of penetration and maintain constant communication with a trusted partner whose first concern is always your safety and comfort.  

11. Eat lots of fibre!
 
Though your anus is not a storage compartment for feces, they do pass through their on the way to the porcelain pool, so your diet can impact your degree of comfort and pleasure during anal play. If you don’t have enough fiber in your diet and you have to push hard when going to the bathroom, irritation and muscle strain can occur and cause discomfort. Here’s to a healthy diet  and a happy sex life!

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